When I was in my younger years I often wondered if I would have Best Friends later on in life. Guess what? I do. I have incredible friends in a range of friendships from bare acquaintances to BFF’s.
Have you ever met someone and immediately said to them you’re going to be my best friend. Of course not! Being a friend is a deliberate process. It’s about spending time together. Getting to know one another. Sharing ups and downs and in-betweens. Supporting them, praying for them, sharing with them, accepting them… That’s what grows strong friendships.
It’s nice to have friends that share interests and hobbies. However, if we surround ourselves with exact copies of ourselves it gets really boring. One of my BFF’s shares few commonalities with me, except a desire to grow closer to our Jesus.
In building strong, lasting friendships there are a few things that really don’t matter. Age is one of them. Yes, people of our own age share similar likes and experiences but those of other age groups have much to teach us. Friendships cross many boundaries. Things like status, education, marriage, distance, can be overcome when two people say let’s be friends.
There’s a beautiful contemporary Christian song that points to the fact that God gives us our friends. God Gave Me You by Dave Barnes really says it all. Check out these lyrics:
God gave me you for the ups and downs
God gave me you for the days of doubt
For when I think I’ve lost my way
There are no words here left to say, it’s true
God gave me you.
What does God say about friendship? Check these verses out:
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27:5-6
So, here are my 10 Ways To Build Strong Friendships:
There’s a Kroger commercial that ends with a woman saying, “My momma always said if you want to have a friend be one.” Nothing more needs to be said, does it?
Not all of my friends are women. My husband of more than 40 years has been my friend for more than 50. Men add a richness that is unique in its own way. Don’t count them out.