5 Ways To Improve Any Relationship

I often think about being the best wife, friend, teacher, worker… I can be.  Perhaps I can do more, be more, give more… Certainly all of the above but there are some very practical, down to earth ways we can show those around us they matter most.

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I believe the #1 way to improve friendship is to take yourself out of the running for 1st Place.  Narcissism destroys more relationships that any other personal characteristic.  Anytime we think we matter more, in any way, than the person we’re relating with ruins any chance of building up the other person.  Jesus said it best when He said, ‘love others’ in response to what is the greatest commandment.

Steven Covey, in his book First Things First, makes it clear that we must know the wants and needs of the other person to become successful.  In our relationships, we really need to know what another likes or dislikes.  Remember anything we might think is fun may not be enjoyable to someone else.  Get to know your friends, husbands, co-workers.  Talk to them.  Discover their hobbies and interests.  The best relationships take the desires of the other into account first.

When you’re building friendships and relationships don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.  If it’s more than one-sided the other person is just as interested in you.  If your friend says let’s go see a dirt bike race and you really can’t stand the dust then tell them.  Remember, if your friend is truly interested in creating an awesome relationship they’ll find someone else to go with and both of you will discover something about the other.

That leads us to trust.  If a friend chooses to do something with another person do not put a guilt trip on them.  Building relationships with other people adds more to the friendships you already have.  Learning to trust others is a huge growth issue.  One does not need to know everything that their friend is doing every moment to build a strong relationship.

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Sometimes, when I read a list like this, I think I have to do everything.  Not so!  Even choosing one of these suggestions will make you a standout, awesome friend.  Go for it!

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

Do Overs

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God is the God of second chances, third chances, fourth chances…  God gives ‘do-overs’.  Look at the number of people in the Bible who were given another chance, a do-over if you will.

David and Paul and Jael were murderers…

Noah and Lot were drunks…

Rahab was a prostitute…

Samson was a womanizer…

Jonah was hesitant, reluctant, and fearful…

Naomi and Martha were whiners…

Peter denied…

Elijah was suicidal…

All of them were given mercy.  Yes, a do-over.

David asked for forgiveness and God, in His great mercy, said I can still use you.  (Psalm 51)

Rahab followed through on her promise and God saved her and her family in the fall of Jericho and topped that off with giving her a place in the lineage of Christ.  (Joshua 6:22)

Jonah went the opposite direction to get away from God’s command, God sent a storm and whale to get him where he needed him… Jonah saved the people of an entire city.  (Jonah)

Jesus told Martha to quit whining and follow the example of her sister Mary. (Luke 10:38-42)

Peter did exactly what Jesus said he would.  But Jesus knew the rest of the story…Peter would be the Founding Father of His churches.  (Matthew 16:18)

Elijah was so afraid of what Jezebel would do to him that he ran and hid under a desert bush asking God to let him die.  God had other plans…  (1 Kings 19:4-14)

And he still does that today.  He knows we’re not perfect.  He knows we fall short.  Yet, He forgives over and over and lets us start over and over.

What a Mighty God we serve!

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

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Hannah’s Choice Book Review

Adulting is hard.  There’s no way around it.  In Hannah’s Choice, life choices abound.  In this book, you’ll find a little history, family issues, drama, sadness, great joy and more.

Although set in the mid 18oo’s the issues could easily be issues of 21st Century families.

The setting – Lancaster County, Pennsylvania

The time – right before the Civil War25795353-_sy180_

The choice – which of two young men will she marry, will she travel to an unknown part of the country or stay where she is

The book took several surprising twists and kept me very curious about what would happen next.  From a severely depressed mother to a sister who insisted on doing life her way to fleeing slaves…there’s a delightful mix of romance, history and making decisions.

I highly recommend this book for those who enjoy Amish novels.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

 

God Breathed

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Can you imagine placing your hands on any page of your Bible and feeling His very breath on the page?   That is exactly what this verse is saying (to me).  This is how I see it – – if I can’t see Him face to face until I enter heaven then I’ll settle (hardly the right word) for experiencing His breath in the words I’m reading.

Think about the words of this beautiful chorus from the song “Ancient Words” by Lynn DeShazo.

Ancient words ever true, changing me and changing you; We have come with open hearts, oh, let the ancient words impart.

Friends, family, sisters, and brothers in Christ there is nothing more important than knowing God’s word.  In every action and situation of our lives we can draw on the Word and know without question it was written for that very purpose.

God did not leave us alone on this earth.  He is still breathing every word, in every verse, on every page of our Bibles.

Holy words long preserved for our walk in this world, they resound with God’s own heart; Oh, let the ancient words impart.

Ah, Lord, God thank You for every word, every phrase, every letter of Your Word.  Heavenly Father place a real hunger in our hearts to know Your words and use them for our lives.  Let us not only read them but let us use them.  Put teachers in our lives to help us understand them.  Drench us with the Holy Spirit as we read and learn how to apply them.  Make it so in Jesus name!

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

Monday Mewsings

I thoroughly enjoy having cats for pets and have often wondered what the Bible says regarding that.  So, I did some research.  Here goes…

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Not even a sparrow, worth only half a penny, can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it.” Matthew 10:29, New Living Translation  God is aware of all of His creation, all of the time. With that thought in mind shouldn’t we be also?

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“O Lord, You preserve both man and beast.” Psalm 36:6  So, let’s think about this.  If God preserves (cares for) man and animal then we should be doing the same.

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“A righteous man regards the life of his animal.” Proverbs 12:10  Righteousness is making right choices.  The word regards reflects the idea of caring for animals in the best way possible.

There has been a great deal of research about how cats affect their humans.

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Need to work something out?  Talk to your cat. It doesn’t respond and when it looks at you with those beautiful eyes you know you’re the most important human ever.

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Dealing with stress and anxiety? That awesome ball of purring fur will eliminate stress faster than any pill.

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Are you a high risk for cardiovascular disease?  A recent study found a high significant statistical probability that those who own cats have less chance of death due to stroke or heart attack.  One study found that over a 10-year period cat owners were 30 percent less likely to die of a heart attack or stroke

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Do you love books and have a college degree?  Thank your cat.  According to Dr. Denise Guastello cat owners are introverted, open-minded, non-conformists, and score high on intelligence tests.

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Do you sleep with your cat?  Researchers at the Mayo Clinic discovered that 41% of those who sleep with their cat report sleeping better.

Do you have a cat? A dog? Share it with us.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie