The Most Important People In The Family

I happened across this article while scanning my Facebook page today that may help with why kids are so different today.  It is written by John Rosemond, syndicated columnist for the LaCrosse Tribune and plainly explains who should be most important in the family.  The 5th Commandment says, “Honor your father and your mother.”  It does not say things like: Make your children the most important part of your life or children count more than parents or give your children everything or discipline harms a child’s psyche or let your child do what they want, they have to learn sometime or

John Rosemond: Your Kids Should Not Be The Most Important

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?”

Like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they answered, “Our kids!”

“Why?” I then asked.  “What is it about your kids that gives them that status?”  and like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they couldn’t answer the question other than to fumble with appeals to emotion.

So, I answered the question for them: “There is no reasonable thing that gives your children that status.” I went on to point out that many if not most of the problems they’re having with their kids–typical stuff, these days–are the result of treating their children as if they, their marriage, and their family exist because of the kids when it is, in fact, the other way around.  Their kids exist because of them and their marriage and thrive because they have created a stable family.

Furthermore, without them, their kids wouldn’t eat well, have the nice clothing they wear, live in the nice home in which they live, enjoy the great vacations they enjoy, and so on.  Instead of lives that are relatively carefree (despite the drama to the contrary that they occasionally manufacture), their children would be living lives full of worry and want.

This issue is really the heart of the matter.  People my age know it’s the heart of the matter because when we were kids it was clear to us that our parents were the most important people in our families.  And that, right there, is why we respected our parents and that, right there, is why we looked up to adults in general.  Yes, Virginia, once upon a time in the United States of America, children were second-class citizens, to their advantage.

It was also clear to us–I speak, of course, in general terms, albeit accurate–that our parents’ marriages were more important to them than their relationships with us.  Therefore, we did not sleep in their beds or interrupt their conversations.  The family meal, at home, was regarded as more important than after-school activities.  Mom and Dad talked more–a lot more–with one another than they talked with you.  For lack of pedestals, we emancipated earlier and much more successfully than have children since.

The most important person in an army is the general.  The most important person in a corporation is the CEO.  The most important person in a classroom is the teacher.  And the most important person in the family are the parents.

The most important thing about children is the need to prepare them properly for responsible citizenship.  The primary objective should not be raising a straight-A student who excels at three sports, earns a spot on the Olympic swim team, goes to an A-list university and becomes a prominent brain surgeon.  The primary objective is to raise a child such that community and culture are strengthened.

“Our child is the most important person in our family” is the first step toward raising a child who feels entitled.

You don’t want that.  Unbeknownst to your child, he doesn’t need that.  And neither does America.

You can read the whole article at http://lacrossetribune.com/lifestyles/relationships-and-special-occasions/john-rosemond-your-kids-should-not-be-the-most-important/article_e61f4a20-c15e-53c6-ba51-e86af16ab957.html

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

Rosemond, John. “Your kids should not be the most important.” LaCrosse Tribune 1 Jan. 2017. Facebook Web. 14 March 2017.

6 thoughts on “The Most Important People In The Family

  1. Isn’t it amazing, that even across the miles, our awesome God connects us with those who are like us. What a blessing you are to me! Marie

  2. Yes Marie it grieves me too, I have an outreach to Children in Dysfunctional Families, at times I break down and cry, what they endure is heartbreaking and sadly hurt people hurt people and they even hurt me at times in there suffering.

    Like you Marie I don’t have Children on earth, my 7 babies are in Heaven but like with you God has filled my heart and arms with other people’s Children over the years and I have known much Joy but lately sorrow too when I see them hurting but I let them know Jesus Loves them and is with them and I pray that these seeds will bear good fruit, they did with me.

    Blessings – Anne.

  3. I know Anne! It breaks my heart to see what’s happening with parenting (or the lack of) all over the world.

  4. Thanks Linda! I, too, have no children of my own but have been blessed with hundreds as an Elementary Music Teacher and Principal.

  5. Many Mothers work today for the mighty dollar, they haven’t time to be a Wife or a Mother 24/7 so they cut it short and sweet, Pre-Schools, after School Programs, MacDonalds for dinner or something quick and easy. Children left to entertain themselves with strange TV Cartoons focusing on violence and the Occult.. Dad is busy, no time to talk, Mum is tired and can’t be bothered and so it goes on….. Don’t be fooled, Suicide in Teenagers has tripled and so has Pedophilia, Children don’t come first they come last.

    Blessings – Anne.

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