When I was in the eighth grade, planning my High School studies track, I overheard my guidance counselor tell the High School Principal, “Why are we letting Marie follow the College Prep course? She’ll never amount to anything.” I remember the person, the place, the time, what my heartfelt… Although I didn’t set out to disprove him that is exactly what I did. Those words have stuck in my mind for a very long time. It has taken nearly 50 years to overcome the effect of those words. Sometimes the impact is still there but there have been many wonderful people, events, and circumstances that have helped overturn their power.
Now, I’m not famous but there are some really great, high achieving people who have heard much the same thing. Walt Disney was told he wasn’t creative or original. Einstein was told he’d never amount to much. A music teacher said of Beethoven, “As a composer, he is hopeless.”
Were those words hurtful, harmful, hateful? Yes! Did they have an impact? Most certainly! So why do we hear and say those things? Here’s the thing, you and I speak and hear negative words on a regular, daily basis. So, then, how do we overcome the results?
Mary C. Busha, in her book Breaking the Power of Negative Words, gives much insight on the subject. From finding the perspective that helps us understand to getting to a place of freedom through forgiveness, her powerful writing gives us a more complete understanding of why negative words are spoken and how to overcome the results.
People say negative things. We say negative things to ourselves. Those are facts but there are ways to overcome the impact and effects. Busha suggests the following steps to freeing ourselves from the influence these comments have on our lives: Expect to be offended. Stand your ground. Have realistic expectations. Set healthy boundaries. Seek accountability. Forgive daily. (pp. 95-101)
One of the many things I like about Breaking the Power of Negative Words was each chapter ended with personal, probing questions. I was able to reach back into a lifetime of personal issues and reach some understanding of the situations.
I highly recommend this book and want to close with this quote:
I want to remind you that just as God in Christ has forgiven you, once forgiven, you are forgiven. He does not dredge up your past and hold it against you. He does not remind you of the sins you’ve committed. Therefore, do not allow yourself to dredge up the sins of others. (pp. 82)
Blessings to you and yours!
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