I grew up in a family that went to church every Sunday but really had no true idea of who God and Jesus was. Depending on the particular church, (We moved around a lot.) He was an observer of my actions, hellfire and brimstone, always there….I know now He was there because there seemed to always be something missing in my life. After I met and married Ray God made himself visible to me. Ray led me to affirmation of faith and baptism. I have never doubted that he wants me to have a relationship with my Lord that is greater than what I have with him. The plan of our lives is God first, spouse next, and anything after that comes after that. There is no better way to enjoy the purity and sanctity of marriage without having God in the primary relationship position.
Exodus 20:3 tells us we are to have no other gods. Unless we keep sight of the fact that God is God and we (or our spouse) are not we will not be able to build the relationship that God wants. Keeping God first and knowing He will ‘grow’ our marriage relationship allows us, as a couple, to recognize what is most important in our earthly lives. He loves us, He cares for us, He wants what is best for us. Once we recognize that it is much easier to be the helpers, lovers, and friends God intended both relationships will grow and flourish.
Heavenly Father, thank You for creating marriage. Grant us the ability to see You in our coupleness. Let us model to the world around us the joy of making You first. Help us learn to forgive one another with love and grace. Let the sanctity of marriage show through us. Make it so!