A Praying Marriage

Do you want the best possible relationship you can have with your spouse? Try praying for and with them.  So, how do you do that?

Set aside part of your daily prayer time to intercede.  To know and name his/her struggles you’re going to have to communicate those to one another.  Talk about what your goals are as individuals and as a couple.  Find out what challenges they’re experiencing.

In your prayer thank God for them. Thank God for the person they are, for their provision, for their love.

Ask God to show Himself in and through them.  Support them in their daily walk.

Be willing to change so that they can grow.  If you’re part of a problem they’re having give it to God.  Humble yourself!

So, what happens when you pray for your spouse?  It connects both of you with and to  God.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

 

 

 

 

 

5 Thoughts On Developing A Lasting Marriage

June is the month of weddings and I wanted to give a little advice.  Here are my five thoughts on developing a long-lasting marriage.

  • Don’t expect your spouse to be the same year after year.  We all grow and change.  I’ve been married to the same man for over 40 years.  Neither of us is the same as we were then.  It’s been rather fun to meet a new person, who shares my bed and house, every few years.
  • Never stop talking, laughing and crying, together!  Life is tough.  There’s no way around that. Weathering the storms and celebrating the high points is all part of it.
  • Always (!!!) support one another.  Let no one say anything about your spouse that is demeaning, degrading or discrediting.  Stand up for one another!
  • Marriage is not a game!  Scorekeeping is unacceptable.  If you’re feeling that your spouse is not keeping up their end of the bargain.  Tell them.  Talk it out.  None of us have billboards on our foreheads that tell the other what we’re thinking.  Most of the time all you have to do is ask.  Try it!
  • Be kind, thoughtful, forgiving and loving.  Long marriages sometimes evolve into taking advantage of the love you have for one another.  We’re all going to do and say dumb things from time to time.  Get over it and get on with it.

Here’s a then and now picture.  Enjoy!

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

Recently, this post was sent to me on my FB page.  It is so true of our marriage and I hope of yours, too!

For all of you so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on your relationships because everything isn’t “perfect”…here is some food for thought. Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It’s not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It’s not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep, peacefully, at night. It’s not a clean home filled with laughter and lovemaking, every day. It’s someone who steals all the covers (and snores!). It’s slammed doors and a few harsh words, at times. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal…and, then…FORGIVENESS! It’s coming home to the same person, every day, that you know LOVES and CARES about you in spite of (and because of) who you are. It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds WITHOUT finger pointing. It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life! It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud. It’s about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together late to eat because you both had a crazy day. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your Love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay…and you BELIEVE them. It’s about still loving someone even though, sometimes, you make them absolutely insane. Living with the person you love is not perfect
…sometimes it’s hard, but it’s amazing and comforting and one of the BEST things you’ll ever experience!

(This article is from Hopewell Baptist Church page on Facebook.)

 

 

Friday Faves

I haven’t done a list of my top 3 favorite blog posts for quite some time.  As I read the title of Melanie’s article I was intrigued.  One of the members of the Sunday School class I teach likes to try to get me going with the question, ‘If God knows everything, why bother?’ Or something similar to that. God knows what choice we’ll make in every situation but we still have a choice. Check out Why Should We Pray (if God Already Knows Everything Anyway)?

 

 

 

Happy Anniversary to Deb Wolf and her husband!  They’ve made it to 45 years and are looking into the future.  Her 10 tips are among the same life concepts that have helped Ray and I in our 45-year journey. (April 8th we will celebrate that milestone, too.)  Enjoy this article from one of my favorite bloggers!

 

 

 

 

Finally! A review of The Shack that doesn’t bash it to pieces because it isn’t theology accurate.  Finally!  WooHoo!  I’ve read the book and loved it.  Why? Because it attempts to show God the way I believe Him to be.  The Creator of both men and women in His image. (see Genesis 1:27)  I loved it because it shows what mercy and forgiveness are meant to look like.  And I fully expect the movie to be totally awesome.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

 

Friday Faves

I found some awesome posts for this week’s Friday Faves.  Just click on the picture and it will take you to the post.  Enjoy!

PossibleIt’s OK to be angry.  There are things we should be angry about.  Stay humble and watch your words.  Check out Deb’s list of ways to use our righteous anger at Counting My Blessings.

 

1John2_27You’ve heard the excuses. So have I. The Bible is too hard to understand. The words don’t apply to now.  There are too many contradictions. (Really, show me where!)  Seeking to Know the Truth addresses these excuses and encourages us to keep on reading and studying the Word.

 

Mom-and-Dad-on-cell-phonesCell phones are not a problem unless…  It amazes me that people have to be told to put their phones away and/or shut them off during worship, class, in the doctor’s office, at dinner…  Enjoy (or be convicted by) Tiffiney’s words on this issue; Momma, Please Put Down Your Phone.

 

 

aAre you like me and have an abundance of plastic water bottles?  Here are some great ideas for other uses.

Strangers and Pilgrims On Earth

 

 

675-x-975-The-15-Minutes-That-Change-Your-MarriageRay and I are talkers.  We talk about everything.  It’s one of the aspects of our marriage that has kept us together for more than 40 years.  Alicia, over at Your Vibrant Family suggests this 15-minute habit, used daily, is extremely important to your connection as a couple.

 

 

There are so many excellent bloggers on the internet.  I am often convicted by their words and learn so much from them.  What a blessing they are.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie

Living A Long, Strong Marriage

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A couple of weeks ago our niece married her long-awaited prince in shining armor.  The one God had chosen for her before time began.  It was a beautiful wedding.  I thought back on it today as Ray and I celebrate our anniversary.

Being married is not the easiest thing you’ll attempt in life.  When you determine to walk with our Jesus during the years it makes the triumphs and the struggles much easier.  At the start of our marriage, though I truly believed in God, I hadn’t made Jesus my Personal Savior yet.  God’s plan was for Ray to lead me to this crucial decision.  Almost a year after we married I gave my life to Him.  I’ve never looked back.  He has led us through some amazing times both as a couple and as individuals.

With that thought in mind, I wanted them to know what I think leads to a long marriage.  Here are my words to them…

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They chose these words to be read as part of the ceremony.

 

Psalm 1

Blessed is the one
    who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
    or sit in the company of mockers,
but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
    and who meditates on his law day and night.

Interesting choice, don’t you think?  I’m not sure why.  Perhaps, because they wanted to remind themselves that there really is a world out there that will mock and think up all kinds of wicked things…I don’t know.  Without question, though, if they are honoring our LORD and his law (word) their marriage will be a great one.

Blessings to you and yours!

Marie